A Letter to future Girlfriend

Dear Future Girlfriend,

I think I have figured out what I want to do with my life. My boss doesn’t pay a lot, but he thinks the paycheck is enough for me to make myself happy.

I was a little up in the air when I first joined the job. But now, I might not be able to afford all of the expensive stuff that I once thought I would be able to buy you when I jumped into my career.

Is that okay?

Will you still be mine if I am poor? I promise I will learn to budget or else let you budget whichever way you please!

Love you,

Me

(source: from internet, edited by me)

Can Money buy Happiness?

We often hear a proverb “Money can’t buy happiness”. What do you think? Is this correct or not totally correct?

 

Ok before jumping into the topic, lets google the phrase “Money can’t buy happiness”, and you would probably come across many things/links/phrases/paragraphs/poems etc. etc.. I have listed here only some of them:

"Money can buy material things, but real happiness must be truly earned”.

'Money buys everything, except morality and citizens”.

“Money can't buy everything, Money can't buy friends' Money can't buy love, etc.” .

blah blah blah

Well after googling, I came to know that this proverb first appeared in ‘William & Mary College Quarterly’- a publication which started in 1892.

Ok, lets dump those google factors.

 

So is it really true that money can’t buy happiness? Well, I often do agree with this, but sometimes I can’t take a full stand.

 

Money is a logical thing. How? Well a same paper piece of same dimensions, quality and print but of different countries have different monetary value. How is that possible? Ok, being a student of maths in the past, I have a habit of assuming things. So lets assume that an alien has fallen from some part of universe into earth. He happened to fall directly into a vault in Switzerland full of $$$. What would he do? If he is not told about its value, then he might probably use those papers as toilet paper.

 

You need another example? Ok, don’t assume too far. If you give an a child some paper money (of different colors/currencies), how would s/he pick the note? Probably if s/he don’t understand or is not aware of the logic about money, s/he would pick the note of a color/size that pleases him/her.

So money is logical. Its not physical term. It’s a promissory note and its value is attached with a logic.

 

And what about happiness? Well, Happiness is an also logical. But I would like to say it more relative than logical.

Happiness is relative. How? Today you are happy for a thing, and tomorrow you might not be happy about the same thing.

This month I bought a camera. I was so very happy for a week, that nothing could make me sad. But now I am not that happy as I were during those days. Now I think I would be happy if I had a “SLR”.

 

The more you get, the more you wish and the more you wish, the lesser you become happy. But I don’t argue to wish less. It’s a nature of human. Human needs more. More beautiful, more money, more power, more knowledge, more fame, more age, more property etc. etc.

So if happiness is relative, its often attached with the physical objects. I know you might argue that there are many types of happiness:

Materialistic Happiness (the happiness attached with a material object. Often said as the happiness of the body or mind.)

Spiritual Happiness (the happiness attached with the god. Often said as the happiness of the soul or the true happiness.)

I don’t know how to get the “true” happiness. So I am talking about the happiness of the body. The happiness you get by the satisfaction of m/any of your senses or/and the mind.

 

Ah!! we were discussing about the relativity of happiness. So happiness is often (but not always ) related with a material. If you have money, you can buy that material. So I assume that money can buy happiness.

Proved? I already said that “sometimes” happiness is related with material thing, and when you get that material thing, you become happy for a while. So happiness can be supported or even be purchased with money.

 

Not satisfied?

Ok, lets take another example. Some of your family member is really ill. You have money and you can afford the costlier checkups and medicines, then you both feel happiness deep inside you heart. Here you don’t have a physical object, but still you feel happy, because you have a sensation that you achieved something. So your money gave you happiness.

In short, I want to say that sometimes we are very sad and we wish to get something/ do something/ achieve something which may or may not be purchased with the money we possess. If it could be bought, then we go forward for buying it. And we are aware that we are buying those thing for our happiness.

Obviously, money is logical and happiness is relative, so the tie between them is not always strong.

If someone want to say that the happiness I have supported, is not true happiness but only the ‘ego’, then I am happy to agree on it. Because I am a common person and common persons’ happiness is often misunderstood as “ego” by the rare spiritual people.